Learnings and Missteps

Stop Spinning Your Wheels And Start Seeing Your Goals

• Jesus Hernandez • Season 3

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Ready to stop storing your entire life in your head and start building a future you can actually live? We walk through phase one of guilt-free future planning, a simple, practical way to unload your ideas, goals, and projects so you can see them clearly and choose with confidence. No apps required. Just a pen, some paper, and the willingness to get honest about where your energy goes.

We begin with a full capture—every project you meant to start, every skill you want to learn, every relationship you keep meaning to nurture. Then we sort it all into three buckets: business and professional growth, personal growth, and meaningful connections. This lightweight structure exposes what’s missing and what’s overstuffed. You might discover that work dominates your mind while your health or friendships sit empty. That imbalance isn’t a flaw; it’s a map. Once visible, it gets easier to redirect attention toward actions that deliver real fulfillment and better service to the people who count on you.

You’ll hear why scheduling too soon is a trap, how to separate high-value moves from weak distractions, and what it looks like to set a bold personal target that pulls your habits into alignment. We share examples from publishing, launching a business, training for an Ironman, and refocusing on an underserved community of trade professionals. The goal isn’t perfection; it’s clarity without shame. Capture first, examine next, and hold the calendar for later. Do this now and hit 2026 at a sprint, not a stumble.

Take the next step with us: drop “Double D” in the comments for the Daily Domination Board and the follow-up email with the full Self First framework, then join the upcoming Self First Time Mastery webinar and December workshop. If this resonates, subscribe, share with a friend, and tell us: which bucket needs your attention today?

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SPEAKER_00:

All right, y'all. 2026 is right around the corner, and I want to set you up to finally put yourself first. So we're going to go through phase one of the guilt free future planning dealy. I'm Jesse, and this is the process that I've used that helped me like publish two books, launch my new business, and help me create the conditions for like massive, massive fulfillment in my life. And I want the same for you. We're going to super, super hyper focus on one element, which is this piece here. And in the guilt-free future planning, there's a few things. So we're not gonna, I'm not gonna distract you and flood you with the bazillion things. I want to get super super focused on the first layer of this guilt-free future planning, which is putting the things where you can see them, like get them out of your head. Why? Because you know, or maybe you don't, maybe I'm the only weirdo that is this way. I have a lot of big ideas and I have a lot of plans. I have a lot of things that I want to accomplish and do and learn and all of the stuff. And when they're in my head, it becomes this big, giant, overwhelming thing that I'm never gonna accomplish, right? Like I've only made micro steps on one of the things or a bunch of the things, and so it creates this kind of energy of less than or failure or whatever it is, but it's because it's all in my head, and then what happens because it's all in my head, some new thing comes up, some new opportunities, some new interest, and then I go chase that thing. And guess what? I add to the pile, and so getting it out of our head, putting it where we can see it is like the key, key, key element. And so I know you're out there and you're like, man, Jess, this is great, but I don't have that stupid template. Don't worry about it. Number one, if you want the template, I got all kinds of fancy templates for you. So drop double D in the comments, uh, and I'll hook you up with the daily domination board, and then you're gonna get a follow-up email. So you best open up that email, and that bad boy, it'll give you the whole framework, at least the template, anyways, for you to work through. But if you don't have it, don't worry. Grab a pen and paper, grab your fancy remarkable, grab your iPad, whatever it is that you take notes in, because you can start doing this right now. And remember, I mean, it's October right now, but the new year's right around the corner, and so you got plenty of time to work on the thing. Um, now, like I said, we're gonna talk about put it where you can see it, right? We're gonna get into that. Why? Because when it's all in our head, it our head becomes storage space, and our brain is fantastic and awesome for problem solving, for connecting with other human beings. But when we have it crammed up with all of these things, all of these ideas, all of these commitments that we haven't made progress on, starts stealing our focus and we underserve the person in front of us. And I know that you absolutely want to serve the person in front of you in the greatest way possible. After we get again, I'm gonna give you a heads up, start writing down, take notes. After you get it out of your head, then you want to examine the list because I'm pretty sure, like for real, for real, I'm pretty sure you're gonna have the same situation that I have, which is um oh my I I kind of neglect myself. Back to like the whole purpose of the self first uh framework. It's all about putting yourself first so that you can better serve the people in your world because that's what we're here for, right? It's all about sharing our gifts and talents and service to others. You're out there, grab your pens, grab your pencils, grab your crayons, whatever it is. Uh, we're gonna get into this that the first phase of the guilt-free future planning. And so, again, I'm gonna show this super fancy uh dealy here, and it doesn't have to be super fancy for you, right? Like you you know what you're doing. So, the first, first layer of this, don't worry about all the stuff because we're gonna go to that on our next live stream. What you want to do is like all the stuff that you've had in your head that you were gonna start by now or that you were gonna finish, that you were gonna look into, all of that stuff, I want you to get it out of your head and start writing it down. Now, I like to suggest and guide people to put those things into three different buckets. One bucket is like business or professional development, right? Like if you're running a business, if you're thinking of starting a side gig, what are the things that you want to accomplish? What are the things, the skills that you're gonna have to learn and develop in order to make that happen? Specifically in the business and professional development space. Like if for your job you need a new certification so you can get a promotion. Uh, shout out to Noah, who just got his master's license, which I know he is now a master plumber in the state of Texas. It's not a bit uh small thing. Uh so congratulations and shout out to you, bro, for that. But that's an example of the type of professional development we might be thinking about. You might want to learn AI, you might want to learn how to keyboard or whatever it is. Think of it in a bucket. The next bucket is personal growth, meaning you personally. So, for me, personal growth, the one one big gigantic thing that I have is completing a full Iron Man by the end of next year. I got a long way to go. You can see this little chin here might be in the way of that happening, but when I got it out of my head, I was able to see, like, oh, I've got all these other things I want to do, and then we can prioritize, which again, that's the next phase. Right now, all I want you to focus on is getting the stuff out of your head. We talked about business and professional growth. What are the things, ideas, goals, projects that you've been tinkering around that pop up in your head and don't leave you alone? Write it down. Personal growth, same thing. Those things, write it down. And then the last one is meaningful connections. Because I know if I don't deliberately focus on maintaining and cultivating new connections, I will absolutely ignore it and neglect it. No one knows. I haven't been golfing with them in two years because I just forget to make uh those personal connections a priority. And I'm a bit of a flake when it comes to those kinds of things. Anyways, in my head, it's these three buckets, right? There's the work, professional stuff, there's me, the personal stuff, and then there's the relationships that we need that keep us healthy and keep us sane. Now, you might be feeling a little anxious, like, oh my God, I got like this is a lot of stuff. What if I put it in the wrong bucket? And uh, like, don't worry about it. Like, it doesn't matter what order you're getting this stuff out of your head in. It doesn't just get it out of your head because then you can organize it, right? So just start writing down the what are the things that you wanted to start, accomplish, learn this year. If you haven't, if they are not to your satisfaction, I'll say it that way. If you haven't moved as far as you wanted to, um, if you haven't even started the damn thing, no judgment, man. Life is life, bro. But get it out of your head and put it down on paper, put it where you can see it, right? And you're gonna find that once you start doing that, your brain's gonna start firing, like, ooh, what about this? Oh, what about that? Oh, what about this? Let it let it flow, man. Get them all out of your head. What are some of the things aspirationally that you've been thinking about? Some big giant uh uh challenges you wanted to take on that are gonna force you to grow. Get those things out of your head. Now, the reason I do this, one is because I'm a scatter brain, I love learning, I love people, I love doing things, I love to play. But when I decided to start my own business, I also kind of got to manage myself and execute. And so, and execute on the things that are gonna sustain my business and sustain my life, which meant I had to prioritize things. Now, my mama used to tell me, Mijo, you can't have it all. And I disagree, I can have it all, I just can't have it all at the one time, like right now. And so applying this method, like for real, for real, if you sign up for the self first time mastery webinar, like for real, for real, I have a webinar uh so that you know people can sign up and be a part of that. It's less than an hour, and the point of that is to help you decide like, is this workshop exactly what for me? Will it work for me? And so the webinar is like an introduction, big, big overview of the whole thing. I'll drop the link again. I gotta drop the links later. I might I might need an administrator at some point for these things, anyways. But this is the process and the method that's helped me accomplish and live the life that I'm loving. Like, actually, I'll say it more clearly. This process, this whole system has helped me design the life that I want. And so, if you want to design the life that you want, this is the thing you want to do. So, rehash when we go like the first, first phase, first step in the guilt-free future planning is to get all the stuff out of your head, right? We got this cool little template, uh, which Noah and Bob are going to be getting because they're gonna be signing up for the Double D Daily Domination Board. Uh, and we get the things out of our head that we haven't accomplished, that we want to accomplish, that we want to progress further on in relation to business and professional growth, then personal growth, and then uh meaningful connections. Just get them out of your head so that you can see them and look at them and organize them. Now, another key point to this phase, phase one of the of the future planning, is examining where our energy is going. Like, and I don't mean like actually taking action, I mean like what are the things that that occupy my mind? And so, what one thing that I discovered is my like the the box right here with business and professional growth, full of stuff, uh personal growth, full of stuff, meaning well, maybe half full of stuff, and then meaningful connections, nothing. And so, what did that mean? That meant this was a while back, right? My whole entire mind was consumed with my job, with my career, with my and I'm not saying that's a bad thing, but I was neglecting myself, right? I I mean, I've lost I don't nine, wait, 213, yeah, nine pounds in the past two years. It's been slow, but most of it is because of muscle mass. But, anyways, and so I had to start focusing on my physical wellness. I had to adjust my sleep, I had to adjust my nutrition intake, and I had to adjust my exercise. So I said, How do I accomplish that? I was like, Oh, I know what I need to do. I'll set a big, giant pain in the butt goal, which is the Iron Man, which has helped me really, really hone in on the personal growth side and then the meaningful connections. I got amazing people in my life um that that I almost systematically keep in touch with. Um, not as much as they would like to, but for me, it's like a lot. It doesn't feel like that for you, but it does feel like that for me. Let's get back to this. Once you get all of the things that have been stealing your energy, bouncing around in your head, I like we're not even making a commitment right now. All I want you to do is get it out of your head so you can see it. And the reason we have these three different buckets, and I promise you, like, if you have different buckets, use those. Like, there's nothing wrong with that. But the reason for the different buckets is so that we can see like how what am I neglecting? Where am I failing to serve? I'll give you another example. When I was uh examining my business, like all this business professional growth stuff here, what became apparent to me was the community or the people that I was underserving the most was subcontractors, trade contractors, trade professionals. I do a lot of business with general contractors, and I appreciate them. They keep me fed, you if you can't tell, right? But I have some magical skills and a ton, I don't know, 20 plus years of experience of being on the subcontractor side of the business from installing leading crews, managing uh multiple teams, uh supporting the uh growth of a growth and like awesome performance of a business unit that I could help other subcontractors with, but I wasn't giving them any time or energy. I couldn't see that going day to day. But when I got it out all of my head, I'm like, oh my goodness, I need to make an adjustment. And so last year I made an adjustment. And for clarity, this guilt-free future planning, what we're talking about right now is like setting the stage, start now. Let me say it again. Start right now. Like these things I'm talking about, start writing them down, get them out of your head, examine them, and maybe make some decisions based on that. Because the new year is around the corner. I make all my annual planning, etc., on my birthday, which is in December. Um, why? Because I think the world revolves around me. That's why. Now, most people do their like big planning and evaluation of stuff on the new year, but they wait until like January 1st or New Year's Eve to kind of come up with some whimsical goal. How do I know? Because I used to do that. That did not work for me. Like I made zero progress, except for like my professional stuff, and so doing this early to really dive into it and think about it is going to help you set the stage to start 2026 like at a full sprint instead of trimping and bumbling around. And so back to the whole thing, right? Guilt-free future planning. What we want to do, what I want you to do, what I'm charging you with, is to get the stuff out of your head and don't judge yourself, right? Why do we call it guilt-free? It's because I ain't gonna judge you. You don't need to judge yourself. I am going to absolve you of all the guilt that you carry for not progressing at the rate that you want to progress, or not completely killing every single thing and idea that you had come across your head. It's simply about let me look at the things. And when I look at all of these things, which of these things are gonna bring me the greatest amount of fulfillment? For me, fulfillment comes from serving others, right? And so when I get all these ideas out of my head, I can see some of them are like that's weak sauce, Jess, like that's all about you growing my growing my super long hair. Nobody cares about that. It's not gonna help me deliver back, but it's something I want to do, anyways. The point being is I can see where am I putting my energy and what needs to like rise to the top and maybe fall to the bottom so that I can become the person I'm intended to be or the promise I'm intended to be, right? So that's the idea. Overall, it's simple. Get it out of your head, examine it, and chew on it for a bit. I know now here's here's the other issue that we do. Uh, and the way the reason the self-first framework is broken up the way it's broken up is because it's we typically most of us on here are very action-oriented individuals. So our bias is to action. And so when we sit down to like think and start uh brainstorming about what the future might be like or what we want to design for ourselves, our immediate instinct is to start scheduling it. And you're gonna look at your calendar and you say, Oh my god, I ain't got uh, I don't have time, uh right. And then once we start scheduling it, then we're like, Oh, I could get started right now, I need to start this, and that's a mistake. That's why we're only going to focus on future planning, which is all about getting the stuff out of our head so that we can examine it, so that we can prioritize it. So if you're right now having the instinct to like go put it in your calendar and start seeing when you can start, don't don't like pump the brakes a little bit. We're gonna get back to that. Pump the brakes, and then once we get through the filtering, which the next the next call that we'll have here in a few weeks, we're gonna get into like how do we prioritize these things in such a way that helps us build momentum, and then then we start taking we're gonna walk the plank, which means we're gonna start taking a step towards commitment, but you don't have to do any of that right now. Right now, we're gonna be live streaming again here in two weeks. So here's the homework get the stuff out of your head, the goals, the wishes, the wants, the projects, all of the things, put them in the buckets. The buckets I'm recommending is business and professional growth, personal growth, and meaningful connections, like being connected with other human beings. Get that stuff out of your head and examine it. Give yourself two and don't schedule it, don't do nothing with it. Just get it out of your head. Now, if you're an OG like Mr. Kenneth here, he says he reflects on his goals and challenges every single week and makes attempt, attempts to change and conquer them. Phenomenal, right? Like if you're already there, keep doing that, right? Like, if that's what's working for you, keep doing that. But if you've been spinning your wheels and starting a lot of things and never really finishing anything, and feeling just like, oh man, I'm still here like three, four, five years later, and I'm still spinning my wheels. I don't feel like I'm growing at the rate that I can or should, or I don't feel like I'm serving to the degree that I absolutely can. Then I'm gonna recommend you follow this approach. Again, get it out of your head. Uh, if you don't have the templates, do drop double D in the comments, and I'm gonna hook you up with all kinds of templates. The first one you're gonna get is daily domination board, which is gonna help you like manage your day-to-day tasks, but that's not enough. Like that'll get you through the day and the next day and the next day, but it'll keep you if that's all you do, it'll just keep you on the hamster wheel. But when you sign up for that, guess what? You get a super easy follow-up email, super awesome follow-up email that's gonna give you the template for like the whole uh self-first time mastery framework, which again it's just a template. There's a lot of instructions, there's a lot of words on there that you can use. And I got a bunch of videos that you can go watch to like kind of figure out how to do the things. Um, but if you really, really want to get into it and have an experience, uh, a growth experience learning with other people, the best way to do that is to sign up for the self-first time mastery workshop that'll be happening. Guess when? In December, right before the new year. Uh, and so maybe my brother here, Mr. Adam Hoots, has caught you just in time. Uh, maybe Adam and a bunch of other amazing people or people that you work with out there that you know could benefit uh from investing themselves in themselves and making themselves a priority. Maybe you share some of this stuff with them so we can get the ball rolling. One last time, I know I said it a bunch of times, but I want to make sure super clear that you don't miss this. Your homework, your assignment, your field assignment. If you choose to make sure 2026 is the year for you, that knockout, drag out, breakthrough year. Your assignment is to do this. Get all the stuff that's been in your head, the stuff you planned on starting, but haven't, the things that you want to do, but haven't, the skills that you want to develop, the people that you want to stay in contact with, all of that stuff. Get it out of your head, put it in these buckets, let your brain run. It's gonna run, you're gonna get a bunch of other things. Get out of your head, put it in the buckets, and then examine it. What's missing, what's really valuable, what's transformational, and what's weak sauce? Like for real, for real. Um have some integrity, man. Hold yourself to a higher level because you know you can accomplish great things. And then come back to the next live stream because on the next live stream, we're gonna take all these ideas and things that you've had in your head and we're going to prioritize them or give them weight using the damn matrix. So I'm just gonna leave you hanging with that. If you're watching the replay, keep being amazing. Um, again, if you want the thing, drop double D in the comments. You'll get all the templates and come back for the next show because we're gonna get into the damn matrix to help you give weight to all of these ideas, goals, and stuff. Why? So that you can kick some ass next year. Be kind to yourself, be cool, and we'll talk at you next time. Peace.